Woman defended for refusing to invite former friend to wedding after being in hers

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A lady has been defended for refusing to invite a former friend to her wedding, after serving because the maid of honour at her ex-pal’s nuptials.

In a latest put up shared to the favored “Am I The A**hole?” Reddit discussion board, the bride-to-be requested if she was in the incorrect for not inviting her “ex-best friend” to her wedding. She began by giving context about her earlier friendship with a lady named Maria, noting they met once they had been 9 and “quickly became best friends”.

She then shared that, by highschool, she and Maria began “growing apart,” earlier than they “completely lost touch” once they went to faculty. She added that by the point they turned 23, they “only saw each other once a year at Christmas” for their friend group’s dinner. The Reddit person then defined that when she was requested to be Maria’s maid of honour, she was fairly shocked.

“At the time she asked me, we had not seen or spoken to each other in almost two years, so it honestly shocked me when she asked, but I agreed,” she defined about Maria, who acquired engaged to her highschool sweetheart. “She asked me about a year before the wedding.”

She famous that after she was requested to be maid of honour, Maria “did not speak” to her once more for six months. She then defined how she felt just like the wedding was a chance for her and her once-close pal to reconnect. However, in accordance to the Reddit person, the 2 of them primarily acquired collectively for bridal get together tasks.

“I had taken it to mean maybe she wanted to rekindle our friendship and reached out a few times during those six months to meet up for lunch or hang out, but she never responded,” she defined. “When she finally texted me, it was to meet up with her and her best friend (one of the bridesmaids) to pick out the dresses for the bridal party.”

She went on to recall that Maria confirmed up three hours late to this event, since “Maria and her friend decided to meet up for lunch and to hang out before”. The Reddit person added: “[They completely ignored] our agreed upon time and the fact that I had already said I was there and waiting for them.”

The lady added that she “genuinely felt so used and disrespected,” as soon as Maria’s wedding day arrived. She then described her former friend’s behaviour on the wedding and famous they haven’t been in contact because the occasion.

“Maria was just mean. I waited until the speeches and the first dance were over, then I left the reception and went home. I have not spoken to her since,” she wrote.

After noting that it’s been 4 years since that wedding, she defined that she’s now engaged and getting married in just a few months. She additionally expressed that she didn’t invite Maria or anybody in their previous friend group, claiming that her friendship with the friend group “is well and truly dead”. However, the bride-to-be later found that Maria was anticipating a wedding invitation.

“Apparently, Maria ran into my sister at a store and were chatting and my sister mentioned the wedding,” she continued. “Maria texted me (honestly shocked she still has my number) to send me her address ‘so I knew where to send her invitation’ and I just responded, ‘thank you, but the guest list is already set. Have a nice day.’”

She mentioned issues took a flip when her former friend group and household acquired concerned and inspired her to invite Maria to the wedding, because the Reddit person was the maid of honour at her ex-friend’s nuptials.

“They’re all blowing up my phone about inviting them ‘for old time’s sake’ and that I owe at least Maria an invitation because I was her MOH,” she added. “They’ve been posting on social media and now even my mom is getting involved, saying I should invite them all just to keep the peace and out of respect for our old friendship.”

She concluded her put up by explaining her argument, emphasising that she hasn’t “spoken to [these friends] in years”. She additionally as soon as once more defined that she doesn’t “owe Maria an invitation just because [she] was her MOH”.

The Reddit put up has rapidly gone viral, with greater than 3,800 upvotes as of 27 March. Many readers in the feedback got here to the bride-to-be’s defence, agreeing she shouldn’t have to invite those who she’s not shut to, even after being in Maria’s wedding. They additionally criticised the girl’s former friend group for how they contacted her for an invite.

“Invitations aren’t memorials for old friendships that have come to the end of their existence,” one wrote. “They’re for the people who love you, support you, and will be in your life for years to come. And their dates. And maybe a few awkward relatives.”

“Who sends a text message to someone they haven’t spoken to in years and just assumes they’re invited? Your response was fine. Let her be mad,” one other added.

A 3rd wrote: “Keeping the peace means starting a war in yourself. Prioritise YOUR peace. You don’t want them there. And there’s no reason to pay 50+ a plate for ‘old times sake’. Weddings are an event meant to be attended by those who love and support you, they don’t meet either one of those qualifications.”

Other folks gave their recommendation on how to deal with the state of affairs, with one writing: “First conversation is to shut mom down. Tell her the guest list is set and you are happy with it. She doesn’t have to like or understand your decision, she merely needs to accept it and stop bringing it up. As for the rest, there is no argument to be had. Ignore them. There is no ‘respect for old friendships’ necessary. No response, block them.”