Drew Barrymore shares the parenting advice that ‘changed her life’

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Drew Barrymore has shared the parenting advice she obtained that “changed [her] life”.

The 50 First Dates star, 48, who shares daughters Olive, 11, and Frankie, 9, with ex-husband Will Kopelman, opened up about the piece of advice that modified the means she dad and mom throughout Tuesday’s episode of The Drew Barrymore Show, the place she was joined by  parenting skilled and psychologist Dr Aliza Pressman.

According to Barrymore, the piece of advice got here from Dr Pressman years in the past, when her daughter Olive was “going through a phase”.

“You specifically changed my life,” Barrymore instructed the psychologist. “I had my daughter Olive, who Aliza knows, she was going through a phase, this was years ago, where when she would get upset, I would try to go to her and I would try to make it better.”

However, based on the actress, that was the “last thing [her daughter] needed or wanted”.

“I didn’t understand it, she would either run away or come back at me. But either way was like the two extremes of no goodness,” she continued.

Barrymore stated that Dr Pressman as an alternative taught her find out how to “regulate” herself in these moments.

“You said walk in the room and just say: ‘I understand we’re having a moment, I’m here on the other side of this door for you, waiting. When you are ready, I am here,’” Barrymore recalled. “And I would walk out and take a deep breath. I got the best results I’ve ever gotten in my parenting from that and it was never a way in I had thought of.”

In response to Barrymore’s rationalization, Dr Pressman famous that dad and mom typically get “so scared of [their child’s] big feelings” and wish to “fix them”.

“And we’re chasing them,” she continued, prompting Barrymore to agree that that’s precisely what she’d been doing earlier than she obtained the advice.

During the dialog, Dr Pressman additionally famous that it’s regular for folks to really feel this manner, but in addition the significance of with the ability to regulate the feeling as nicely.

“Being able to regulate ourselves as the adults and say: ‘Okay, I’m not being chased by a bear. My daughter’s not being chased by a bear.’ Meaning, it’s not an emergency. It’s a feeling,” she stated, including that it’s useful to as an alternative train youngsters “how to have the feelings and that they are survivable and that we are not shaken”.

This isn’t the first time that Barrymore has spoken candidly about parenting, as she beforehand revealed that she was “terrified” when she grew to become a dad or mum for the first time.

“I didn’t expect to feel like I was in such a fight or flight mode for a very long period of time. I thought it would be a little more romantic and cosy, and instead I was just terrified,” she recalled throughout an episode of “Dear Drew” on Entertainment Tonight. “I was so under slept, I couldn’t eat, I was nervous all the time, and no one really talked about how intimidating and overwhelming it can be … so I wasn’t really prepared for that.”

At the time, Barrymore additionally admitted that she felt “so alone” earlier than assuring different moms who really feel that means that they don’t seem to be alone.

“I felt alone on that, so if there’s other moms out there that felt like that in the beginning, you are not alone, I felt like that too,” she stated. “For any mom who felt casual and capable, you are a superhero! I wish I could have been like you.”