Newlywed reveals how they were left disappointed by best man’s ‘low effort’ speech

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A newlywed has revealed how they were in the end left disappointed by their best man’s “low effort” speech throughout their wedding ceremony.

In a current submit shared to the well-liked “Wedding” Reddit type, the newlywed who goes by the username – u/melindalisten – requested if they were within the flawed for being “annoyed” at their best man for “terribly” winging his speech on the wedding ceremony. The Reddit consumer additionally famous that nicely earlier than the marriage, they’d mentioned the speech with their best man.

“[I asked] with lots of advance notice whether he’d be happy to give the speech, then whether he was still happy to a couple of weeks before,” they wrote. “I said if not because, he isn’t comfortable or whatever, I’d ask my other very good friend to give a speech instead. He said no no, he wants to do it.”

The newlywed went on to notice that when they checked in with the best man in regards to the speech, a pair weeks earlier than the marriage, he nonetheless hadn’t written. However, the Reddit consumer expressed that they weren’t essentially apprehensive on the time, as they merely gave him recommendation for writing the speech.

“I thought it’s okay there’s still plenty of time, thought a little more enthusiasm would be nice. I just told him not to worry and sent him a few links online with tips on how to write a speech in case he was struggling,” they continued.

However, the unique poster (OP) then shared that after the rehearsal dinner began, they realized that the best man nonetheless hadn’t written a speech. From there, they found that their good friend wasn’t planning on writing the speech earlier than the marriage.

“Like – the wedding was the next day. Not even had he not written it, he was planning to ‘wing it.’ Just not write one at all and see what pops into his head,” they added.

The newlywed went on to share extra context about their best man, claiming that he’s “not the type of person who can just wing a speech”. They claimed that whereas their good friend is a “great conversationalist and storyteller” and “very charismatic,” he’s not the “stereotypical person” who may get away with winging a best man speech.

They went on to recall that after it was the best man’s second to provide the speech on the wedding ceremony, the event was fairly disappointing and brief.

“So when it’s time for his speech after the lovely ones from the others that were about 5 minutes long each, he stands up… and says about three sentences,” they added. “That’s it. It lasted about 30 seconds. It was just, c**p. The whole thing was clearly, seriously low effort.”

They concluded that whereas they haven’t introduced up the incident to the best man, they nonetheless really feel just like the speech was “quite disrespectful”. They additionally added that the state of affairs was “the cherry on top” for them, as they’ve been “quietly questioning the friendship” for various causes that aren’t associated to the marriage.

In the feedback of the Reddit submit, many individuals went on to help the newlywed amid their emotions of frustration towards their good friend. People additionally inspired them to look at the friendship and the problems they had with their best man earlier than the marriage.

“I would focus on those other ‘unrelated reasons’ and figure out your friendship from there,” one wrote. “‘I’m mad your speech sucked in my wedding’ isn’t gonna make you sound super great when ending a friendship.”

“Unfortunately someone not naturally good at speech writing/execution won’t magically become so when given the opportunity,” one other agreed. “But the lack of preparation/understanding what it meant to you after several convos definitely speaks to larger underlying issues.”

“[Not the a**hole for feeling annoyed, no, but it also sounds like you knew what to expect,” a third wrote. “Probably should’ve chosen someone else if you already had issues in the friendship.”

Other people expressed how they could relate to the newlywed’s situation, noting that they’ve had situations where they’ve been disappointed by their close friends’ brief speeches at their weddings.

“I was in the same boat with my MOH. It’s a sucky place to be, for sure. It’s ok to feel like the effort is not equitable and have that raise questions,” one wrote.

“We had the exact same scenario at our wedding with my husband and his best man. The option was always there for him to back out and he insisted on giving a speech. He was up there for a total of maybe one minute tops, winging it and trying to crack jokes like he does at his stand-up open mic nights. It just didn’t hit. My husband deserved a lot more than that,” another wrote.